Geo-AnthropActress!
The Enneagram is a system of relating 9 types of personalities.
There are Nine point of views and all people will find that they relate to one
of these points of view. Once you have determined your type, you can use
the system to improve yourself and improve your relationships with friends,
lovers, and everyone else on Earth!
Some may complain that they don't like being defined by a specific type or
put into a box, but you're not! You're being put into a nine pointed star!
Ha Ha Ha!
Just remember that it is a beginning point of understanding, not an end point.
I am always eager to talk Enneagram with anyone who wants to.
Here is MY little short summary of each personality type
(Maybe you don't recognize yourself by the title, but it is just a title!)
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1. The Perfectionist: organizer, rule lover, punctual, anxious, responsible,
judgemental, resentful, accomplished, reliable,
self-disciplined, controlling, dogmatic.
*Ones see life in terms of good and bad, right and wrong.
*Ones keep themselves overly occupied, there are always tasks to be done!
2. The Helper: giver, welcoming, caring, intimate, dependent, adaptable,
relationship lover, generous, loving, possessive, manipulative,
overly accommodating, enthusiastic.
*Twos figure out what others would like in a person and then act that way.
*Twos believe it is very important for others to feel comfortable with them.
3. The Achiever: busy, work-aholic, optimistic, self-propelled, narcissistic,
competetive, efficient, confident, vain, superficial,
pretentious.
*Threes have a hard time feeling and expressing emotions.
*Threes aim to climb the ladder of life and are always looking to the future.
4. The Romantic: emotional, creative, intuitive, empathetic, depressed,
moody, self-absorbed, melancholy, introspective,
longing, empty, unique, aesthetic.
*Fours seek out and can offer deep connection in relationships.
*Fours cry easily. Beauty, love, sorrow, and pain really touch them.
5. The Observer: detached, analytical, self-contained, unassertive,
intellectual, shy, impatient, not generous, not social,
private, stingy, sensitive, non-conformist, independent.
*Fives require a great amount of solitude, fear being controlled,
and often feel invisible or choose to be invisible.
*Fives have difficulty expressing feelings, especially in the moment,
and live life with few material possessions.
6. The Questioner: loyal, paranoid, witty, hypervigilant, responsible,
self defeating, compassionate, doubtful, anxious,
reliable, fear of failure, indecisive, supportive.
*Sixes like predictability and can be plagued by doubt.
*Sixes are nervous around certain authority figures and
have a good sense of humour.
7. The Adventurer: capricious, uninhibited, optimistic, confident, charming,
restless, narcissistic, impulsive, distracted easily,
spontaneous, curious, imaginative, idealistic, rebellious.
*Sevens are usually not an expert in any one thing, but good at many things.
*Sevens want to contribute to the planet, but don't like to commit, and
they fear encroachment on their independence.
8. The Asserter: boss, self confident, direct, energetic, domineering,
controlling, protective, courageous, non-conformist, blunt,
straight forward, aggressive.
*Eights value being direct and honest, they like excitement and stimulation,
and they tend to be loud!
*Eights can't stand being manipulated and will fight for what is right.
9. The Peacemaker: generous, peaceful, spaced-out, passive-aggressive,
unassertive, pack-rat, procrastinator, indecisive,
receptive, kind, gentle, non-judgmental.
*Nines become stubborn when others try to control them.
*Nines tend to avoid conflict, and often feel union with nature and people.
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So, now you know a little bit about each number.
Maybe you've already recognized yourself in these descriptions!
And maybe even people you know...
I recommend checking out these books,
written by my idol (and new best friend) Renee:
"The Enneagram Made Easy" by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele
"Are You my Type, Am I Yours?" by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele
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MOVIE EXAMPLES:
Characters that make good Enneagram type examples. Of course, this is just based
on MY judgements to give you a referable example for the types, but none of these
are the ultimate example. But it’s a good place to start if you are interested. Like,
you can see a few movie examples for the 1 type and compare the different
characters to see what qualities they all share and then you’ll know a little about what
kind of person a 1 is.
And as always, if you think of a movie you’d like to add to the list, e-mail me!
1. The Perfectionist:
The Odd Couple: Felix (Jack Lemmon) is a 1 with a 4 line. Perfectionist, demands that everyone folow his rules, neat freak, cries easily, very sensitive and wants to be validated by the good things he does for everyone else.
Thelma & Louise: Louise (Susan Sarandon) is a 1. Uses anal retentive
ziplock bags for packing, always dressed and pressed for
work, mad when things get off schedule, harder for her to
relax and have fun. She's the responsible one, but is
frustrated with the burden.
Sex and the City: Miranda is a 1. Very rigid about the way she lives her life,
really needs a routine to go through to be stable and happy,
sees the world and all in it as right and wrong (nothing
inbetween), doesn’t like to receive help from others, it’s
hard to gain her trust, mostly pessimistic because the world
can’t live up to her standards.
( + Steve = classic 1-9 couple. He balances out her nerosis
with his more relaxed approach to life. It takes him a while
to get ambitious, but eventually he opens his own bar, it just
took him a little bit longer than it would have taken Miranda
if she was opening a bar.)
Election: Tracy Flick (Reese Witherspoon) is a 1. She is very eager to
succeed because being the best and number one and involved in
everything and doing everything is what will make her a good
person. She knows she is the right one for the job, she wants to be
good at everything. Her hard work and lonliness as the only serious
person eventually pays off and it is implied that she gets some big
government job, at the end of the movie.
The Mosquito Coast: Harrison Ford plays an idealistic father. He is full of
resentment for the consumeristic world of America and
he has drive to invent things and be self sufficient. He
goes to Honduras to make a perfect society and he
orders around his family and a bunch of other random
people. Much of the movie is made of up scenes of
Harrison Ford walking by someone and shouting out
an order to them. He must be in control and will not let
anyone else control him.
2. The Helper:
Legally Blonde: Elle Woods (Reese Witherspoon) is a 2 with a 3 wing. Very
happy and cheerful and helpful, with a drive to succeed!
Focused on her image and how she presents herself to the
world everyday.
Sex and the City: Charlotte is a 2. Almost always happy, always looking her
best and aware of her appearance. Into monogamy and
getting to be someone else’s right-hand man. Enjoys
helping others and playing the supporting role, but
sometimes uses such a position for manipulation!
( + Trey 3 = the very common 2-3 couple, he’s the big
successful man and she’s his trophy and doting backbone
of their family.)
( + Harry 8 = the very common 2-8 couple, he’s brash and
strong and honest and is always real.)
3. The Achiever:
Wall Street: Gordon Gekko (Michael Douglas) is a 3. He is so driven to
succeed that he will ruthlessly do anything in order to stay on top
and make money. He also is extremely concerned with his image
and his image always must be that of wealth, status, importance
and success. His material possessions are the best of the best
and he never appears weak to his competitors.
4. The Romantic:
The French Lieutenant's Woman: Meryl Streep "F.L.woman" is a 4. She is
constantly longing for her lost love. She is
swept up in the troubled past and the
infinite depressing future living without that
love that she had, but lost. Lost in her own
sorrows and takes on the sadness of
other's loss too. Very dramatic, she
simply cannot go on once she has lost her
love, never to love again.
The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie: Maggie Smith plays a teacher at an all girl's
school and she fills their minds with art and
romantic whimsical words and imaginative
ponderings. She has an artist boyfriend, a
torrid affair and she really gets involved in
her girl's lives, but because she knows she
is unique in being the only "cool" teacher at
the school with any spirit!
5. The Observer:
Capote: Capote is a 5. Always in his head, not very humble when it comes to
gloating about his talents. He not only wants to know everything about
a specific area of expertise (the murder case and murderers), but he
wants to be the person to tell the rest of the world about what he knows.
He prefers to be alone but recognizes the need to be social every once
in a while in order to tell everyone how fabulous he is. It’s difficult to get
him to talk about anything but himself because he is so in his head and
in his own world, so he has very few friends.
Lolita (1962): James Mason plays a man with an obsession, a very reserved and
keeping to himself kind of man, but who is inspired by the most out
there and sexual unattainable woman he's ever encountered. He
has the most not-normal, but totally organic reactions to events. He
wants to own and count on Lolita, and his obsession rules him. Like
the scene when he takes her to a hotel for the first time, he goes out
onto the lobby porch for like half an hour while she just falls asleep in
the room...wondering where he went...well, he needed to be alone,
but he did end up having a conversation with a man, but he tried to
get out of it for the first minute.
6. The Questioner:
Enough: Jennifer Lopez’s character is a 6. She is completely paranoid of her
husband who is trying to find her. Instead of just being afraid, phobic,
she learns to fight back, thus making her a counter-phobic 6 who can kick
a lot of ass if provoked! She has escape plans and emergency money
and extra clothes packed and she can always make a quick getaway if
she is discovered.
Sex and the City: Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker) is a 6. Very analytical, always
asking questions and worrying. But likes to relax and have fun
as often as possible. Very conscious about what others think
of her and often obsesses.
( + BIG 7 = 6-7 couple, he’s more outgoing, capricious, and he’s
got that charisma that makes us all weak in the knees!)
( + Aidan 9 = 6-9 couple, he’s more relaxed and easy-going and
understanding, he has far less anxiety than Carrie.)
7. The Adventurer:
Amadeus: Mozart (Tom Hulce) is portrayed as a 7. He is capricious and wild and
rebellious. He loves to be the center of attention in social settings and
he has boundless energy. He is concerned with providing for his family,
but more importantly, he wants ot have lots of FUN! He has many
projects and ideas for operas swiming in his head at all times. He
womanizes a bit also...
8. The Asserter:
Sex and the City: Samantha is an 8 with a 7 wing. She likes everything intense,
real, simple, and easy. She doesn’t play games, she’s
independent, and always says what she means and no one is
as important as she is. She’s selfish, demanding, always wants
to be in charge, and doesn’t put up with wimps.
( + Smith 7 = 8-7 couple. He may be more of a 5 sometimes
because he’s pretty shy, but most of the time, he is very
charming and adventuresome and crazy. The perfect
match for Samantha to rise to her level of spontaneity
and fun seeking lifestyle.)
The Godfather Movies: Most prominent characters are 8s. The mob is a scary,
ruthless, extreme, and dangerous business, so naturally,
it attracts a lot of bossy and tough people. These are
eights. They all want to be the boss of themselves
and strive to gain status in order to boss more
people around beneath them. They are violent and
defensive and gregarious and live life to the fullest.
They eat a lot, drink a lot, smoke a lot, and like the
risk of gambling and of running a not quite legal
business. Party hard, Work hard, Fight hard.
9. The Peacemaker:
The Odd Couple: Oscar (Walter Matthau) is a 9 with an 8 wing.
Sloppy, stubborn, has a temper.
Thelma & Louise: Thelma (Geena Davis) is a 9. Very dirty and neglected house,
indecisive, doesn’t think ahead, easy-going, wants to have fun.
Has the capacity for showing some agression.
